7 Reasons why people become failures in life while others succeed

 7 Reasons Why People Become Failures In Life While Others Succeed

 

Every day I see different mediocres roaming around in Nigeria with the attitude of blaming other people for their failures or why they are not making progress in becoming a success.It is my desire that they get to see this post i made.
  

“Success happens not by chance, but because you were given a chance and took advantage of it.” – Kevin Geary

 
Before I go any further, I must admit that not everyone will find success. There will always be those who sit around waiting for success to find them. There will be those who are simply not willing to achieve it. And then there’s the fact that success would not exist without failure. All of these things create what we know; a world where success and failure are experienced by different groups of people.
Everyone in a free country has the opportunity to succeed. So why doesn’t everyone succeed? Because success and failure are choices made consciously and subconsciously and failure is chosen by many for various reasons.
Here are 7 undeniable reasons why some people fail where others succeed:

1. They Define Success Wrong

“Striving for success without hard work is like trying to harvest where you haven’t planted.” – David Bly

Do you believe that success is won, innate, or earned? The answer someone gives can tell you a lot about them, and why they are where they are.
Success is won: if you believe that success is won, you experience animosity and envy toward those you view as lucky or more fortunate than you. You also believe that success is out of your control; it simply depends on a flip of the coin or certain circumstances.
How hard are you willing to work if you believe that success is won rather than earned?
Success is innate: people who believe success is innate often feel the same as those who believe it’s won. The only difference is that believers in innate-success have a more pessimistic view of opportunity; it’s trivial to them (we’ll go over this a little later). Why does opportunity matter if success is innate?
How hard are you willing to work if you feel your opportunity doesn’t matter and your chances of success are nil because of your circumstances?
Success is earned: the last group of people believes what we know to be true based on statistical analysis; success is earned. These people understand that in order to succeed, they must earn it. How do they earn it? They climb the mountain and utilize the same process others have used to achieve.
How hard are you willing to work if you believe success must be earned?

2. They Define Opportunity Wrong

“The ladder of success is best climbed by stepping on the rungs of opportunity.” – Ayn Rand

Do you believe that opportunity provides a possibility of success, a probability of success, or that it’s trivial?
Let’s ask the same questions we asked when we discussed success:

• How hard are you willing to work if you believe the opportunity you were born with is trivial?
• How hard are you willing to work if you believe the opportunity you were born with is a possibility?
• How hard are you willing to work if you believe the opportunity you were born with is a probability?

I hope this is coming together for you. I still want to go further though. I want you to see exactly how your views on opportunity and success work together to help determine your outcome.

• People who believe success is won see their opportunity as a possibility, but sometimes as trivial.
• People who believe success is innate see their opportunity as trivial.
• People who believe success is earned see their opportunity as a probability, but sometimes only as a possibility.

In layman’s terms, the rich see success as earned and view their opportunity as probability. The middle class see success as earned and view their opportunity as possibility, but sometimes as probability. The poor class sees success as won or innate and views their opportunity as trivial, or in some cases as a possibility, but not a probability.
Of course, people don’t stay in one class their entire life. The people who move between classes tend to have the same outlook as those of the class they move to.

3. They Define Work Wrong

“The value of a man’s position is often determined by the number of people qualified to fill it.” – Kevin Geary

We just discussed two important terms: success and opportunity. In order to continue our discussion further, we must discuss another, “work.”
“But success doesn’t always come from hard work!”
Inevitably, people will point out that factory employees work harder than CEOs. Of course, this depends on your analysis of the word “work.”
Choose a corresponding term:

• Physical Labor
• Mental Labor
• Labor

Those who claim that success doesn’t always come from hard work only acknowledge one aspect of work, physical labor.
Of course, work is labor, period. Excluding mental labor from the term work is biased and unfair. CEOs may sit at a desk, wear a suit, and enjoy the air conditioning, but that doesn’t mean they labor any less than the man in the shop room, it’s simply a different type of labor. Not accepting this is like making the argument that one who hates their job labors more than one who enjoys their job and the pay should be altered to make up for it. You see where this is going?
In terms of pay scale, people who run companies are worth a lot more than those who assemble products. Why? Because it’s easy to find people who can assemble products and it’s not very easy to find people who can operate multi-million dollar companies for a profit.
Needless to say, the man in the shop room wouldn’t have a job if the CEO behind the desk wasn’t doing his (and vice versa). The only difference is which job you’d rather be doing, and that depends solely on the choices you make throughout your life.
How do you think the CEO views success and opportunity? How do you think the shop worker views those same terms?

4. They Defeat Themselves

“To expect defeat is nine-tenths of defeat itself.” – Henry Mencken

While there is a minority of people who actually choose to fail, the majority that fail simply make poor choices or have a poor outlook. Basically, for the majority, failure is a choice but not a decision.
I can’t possibly list all of the bad choices people make which lead them to failure, but a few to get you headed in the right direction are:

• Abusing drugs or alcohol / addiction.
• Not getting an education.
• Having a poor work ethic.
• Having a child too young or out of wedlock.
• Immaturity / laziness.
• Borrowing too much money.

And the list goes on, and on, and on…..and on.
Of course, there are also those things which are out of someone’s control.
If you’re born into an inner-city family and attend a poor school system, you obviously start out behind others. If you’re handicapped, your road to success may be longer and more difficult. But none of this bars you from success; I’ll elaborate on this later when we discuss circumstances.
Lastly, as our quote up top reminds us, many people defeat themselves simply by expecting defeat in the first place. They don’t expect success and it actually becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.

5. They Think Failure is Final

“Success is the ability to go from failure to failure without losing your enthusiasm.” – Winston Churchill

“But, hard work doesn’t always equal success. Some people work really hard, but fail. They tried and didn’t succeed.”
Failure is a key ingredient in success. Those who don’t achieve success most likely quit after their failure. Quitting, of course, is a choice.
If you were to follow in the footsteps of a successful person, you would likely pass the remnants of multiple failures. If you followed in the footsteps of a failure, you would find their lifeless future at the feet of their first opponent.
So the question is, how hard and for how long are you willing to fight? There are no shortcuts, statistically. The vast majority of millionaires are self-made and far too many lottery winners are broke and worse off than they were before they won the lottery. Why? Because wealth is about behavior and money doesn’t protect you from failure.
If you want to succeed where other people fail, you have to step right over failure and keep walking. The people who don’t make it let failure defeat them. Failure becomes their end result because they refuse to walk any further.
Look at it this way; if you aren’t dead yet, there’s still hope.

6. They’re a Victim of Their Circumstances

“The first step toward success is taken when you refuse to be a captive of the environment in which you first find yourself.” – Mark Cain

One of the biggest rebuttals given by non-achievers is that they are held back by their circumstances.
I don’t think circumstance is a fair argument though. Yes, you may be subject to circumstances that make it more difficult for you to succeed, but that doesn’t change the fact that you start with the same opportunity as others; the opportunity provided to you by living in a free country.
It’s also important to note that some people handle circumstances better than others. For instance, you can’t say that a handicap is a circumstance that prevents you from achieving when others with the same handicap have achieved.
Everyone has issues, circumstances, road blocks, etc. It’s all about how you deal with your circumstances and how hard you’re willing to work to overcome them. But the basics don’t change; you’re still in a free country and nobody is preventing you from achieving except for yourself.
Circumstance is also unimportant because it doesn’t determine finality. For example, a trust fund baby can lose his fortune with a series of bad decisions just as easily as a child from the ghetto can acquire a fortune with a series of good decisions.
Don’t be quick to judge others based on their circumstances. Instead, judge them based on their ferocity in overcoming those circumstances.

7. They Take No For an Answer

“Opposition is a natural part of life. Just as we develop our physical muscles through overcoming opposition – such as lifting weights – we develop our character muscles by overcoming challenges and adversity.” – Stephen R. Covey

First, you are given an opportunity. Then, based on that opportunity, you hatch a dream. And when you try to execute that dream, you meet your opposition. It is here on the battleground, facing the opposition, that success is either realized or lost.
Everyone faces opposition on their way to the top. The crack babies and the trust fund babies both have their own sets of problems. And you can’t assume that one faces more opposition than the other; everyone’s life and path to success is unique.
The one thing they do have in common is the opportunity for success. But, as you try to succeed, there will be people and circumstances around every corner that try to tell you no. The disability you were born with tells you no, your abusive parents tell you no, your pessimistic friends tell you no, your lack of self esteem causes you to say no to yourself, addiction tells you no, and so on.
The people who succeed are those who don’t take no for an answer. They shrug off the pessimism, they choose better friends, they put up boundaries with their family, and they surround themselves with positive people and things.

And in conclusion,I would like to say Success is possible for anyone who is willing to achieve it. There are many who want success, but there is a huge difference between wanting-to and willing-to. You have to be willing…
The other thing to remember is that your outlook and the way you define success, opportunity, and work play a large role in determining your outcome.
If you aren’t achieving, the first person you should always look to first is yourself.

HOW TO BECOME RICH..!

      HOW TO BECOME RICH

      Unlike other information we get about this subject matter,these brief info was gotten from a man who is rich and not some hungry belly out there who don't know the secrets to making money. Here are the little i got from a successful man called Warren Buffet:

The investing legend shares the secrets to his success.

Warren Buffett is a true genius as he is able to simplify complex ideas into quotes that will stand the test of time. Warren Buffett spent his life dispensing advice to all who would listen, earning him the nickname of the Oracle of Omaha. In the 1960s, this advice came about twice a year in letters to investors in his investment partnerships. Starting a few years later, Warren Buffett’s wisdom was distilled through the Berkshire Hathaway annual meeting and the annual shareholder letter, and in the past 20 years, Warren Buffett has become a household name through appearances on TV and interviews in magazines.
Read on for Warren Buffett’s best quotes on life, investing, and his top five insights.

On life

1. “You only have to do a very few things right in your life so long as you don’t do too many things wrong.”
2. “Should you find yourself in a chronically leaking boat, energy devoted to changing vessels is likely to be a more productive than energy devoted to patching leaks.”
3. “It is not necessary to do extraordinary things to get extraordinary results.”
4. “What we learn from history is that people don’t learn from history.”
5. “Chains of habit are too light to be felt until they are too heavy to be broken.”
6. “There seems to be some perverse human characteristic that likes to make easy things difficult.”
7. “Nothing sedates rationality like large doses of effortless money.”
8. “It takes 20 years to build a reputation and five minutes to ruin it. If you think about that, you’ll do things differently.”
9. “It’s better to hang out with people better than you. Pick out associates whose behavior is better than yours and you’ll drift in that direction.”
10. “Long ago, Ben Graham taught me that ‘Price is what you pay; value is what you get.’ Whether we’re talking about socks or stocks, I like buying quality merchandise when it is marked down.”

On investing

1. “The most important quality for an investor is temperament, not intellect. You need a temperament that neither derives great pleasure from being with the crowd or against the crowd.”
2. “Successful Investing takes time, discipline and patience. No matter how great the talent or effort, some things just take time: You can’t produce a baby in one month by getting nine women pregnant.”
3. “I don’t look to jump over seven-foot bars; I look around for one-foot bars that I can step over.”
4. “In the short term, the market is a popularity contest. In the long term, the market is a weighing machine.”
5. “Opportunities come infrequently. When it rains gold, put out the bucket, not the thimble”
6. “Diversification is a protection against ignorance. It makes very little sense for those who know what they’re doing.”
7. “If you aren’t willing to own a stock for ten years, don’t even think about owning it for ten minutes. Put together a portfolio of companies whose aggregate earnings march upward over the years, and so also will the portfolio’s market value.”
8. “The key to investing is not assessing how much an industry is going to affect society, or how much it will grow, but rather determining the competitive advantage of any given company and, above all, the durability of that advantage.”
9. “I am a better investor because I am a businessman, and a better businessman because I am an investor.”
10. “It’s far better to buy a wonderful company at a fair price than a fair company at a wonderful price.”

Top five insights

Einstein said there are 5 ascending levels of intelligence: Smart, Intelligent, Brilliant, Genius, Simple. Warren Buffett’s top 5 insights each explain a truth about life or investing in the simplest way possible.
1. “I will tell you how to become rich. Close the doors. Be fearful when others are greedy. Be greedy when others are fearful.”
It is a gross oversimplification to say that the key to investing is to buy low and sell high. This quote from when Warren Buffett has been the basis of his most successful investments over time and the basis of how you could have avoided the last few bubbles.
2. “I tell college students, when you get to be my age you will be successful if the people who you hope to have love you, do love you.”
Warren Buffett has spent a lifetime studying conventionally successful people. It’s important to hear that at the end of the day, money is not the thing that matters most in life.
3. “The difference between successful people and really successful people is that really successful people say no to almost everything.”
Numerous greats including Steve Jobs, Bill Gates, and Warren Buffett have attributed their success to focus. Many people have long to-do lists and work on becoming more productive, when in fact, having a not-do list is more important if you want to do great things.
4. “I’ve seen more people fail because of liquor and leverage — leverage being borrowed money. You really don’t need leverage in this world much. If you’re smart, you’re going to make a lot of money without borrowing.”
People succeed in life countless different ways but failures group around a few key themes. As such, you learn more from people’s failures than people’s successes.
5. “What an investor needs is the ability to correctly evaluate selected businesses. Note that word ‘selected’: You don’t have to be an expert on every company, or even many. You only have to be able to evaluate companies within your circle of competence. The size of that circle is not very important; knowing its boundaries, however, is vital.”
One of the quotes I hate the most in investing is Peter Lynch’s “Buy what you know” as it oversimplifies investing. The above quote is sort of the same idea but highlights that the important thing is being able to evaluate companies and also avoid companies you don’t understand. It’s that simple.
Warren Buffett is quoted so much because he has developed a great deal of wisdom over his lifetime. How did he do it?

The secret to Warren Buffett’s success

The secret to Warren Buffett’s success is that he continuously learns. Buffett is a far better investor today than he was 50 years ago. As Charlie Munger has explained:

Warren Buffett has become one hell of a lot better investor since the day I met him, and so have I. If we had been frozen at any given stage, with the knowledge we had, the record would have been much worse than it is. So the game is to keep learning, and I don’t think people are going to keep learning who don’t like the learning process.

 like i said these are only a few i got and there is more, I need you to stay connected to blog for more post that will better your life or anyone who is bent on being successful. 

WHO IS JESUS?,IS HE GOD?

  WHO IS JESUS?,IS HE GOD?

 

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        Now for quiet some time now there is been this controversy,arguments,debates about who is this Jesus that made his name lived through history over thousands of years ago..?well,these are some facts or truth or anything you would like to call it about this Jesus.

 See what Jesus said about himself, his equality with God, and what exactly Jesus did to prove it.

It is impossible for us to know conclusively whether God exists and what he is like unless he takes the initiative and reveals himself.
We must scan the horizon of history to see if there is any clue to God's revelation. There is one clear clue. In an obscure village in Palestine, 2,000 years ago, a Child was born in a stable. Today the entire world is still celebrating the birth of Jesus, and for good reason.

Is Jesus God? Did Jesus ever claim to be God?

We're told that "the common people heard him gladly." And, "He taught as One who had authority, and not as their teachers of the Law."¹
It soon became apparent, however, that he was making shocking and startling statements about himself. He began to identify himself as far more than a remarkable teacher or prophet. He began to say clearly that he was God. He made his identity the focal point of his teaching. The all-important question he put to those who followed him was, "Who do you say I am?" When Peter answered and said, "You are the Christ, the Son of the living God,"² Jesus was not shocked, nor did he rebuke Peter. On the contrary, he commended him!
Jesus frequently referred to "My Father," and his hearers got the full impact of his words. We are told, "The Jews tried all the harder to kill him; not only was he breaking the Sabbath, but he was even calling God his own Father, making himself equal with God."³
On another occasion he said, "I and My Father are One." Immediately the religious authorities wanted to stone him. He asked them which of his good works caused them to want to kill him. They replied, "We are not stoning you for any of these but for blasphemy, because you, a mere man, claim to be God."⁴

Is Jesus God? Look at His life.

When a paralyzed man was let down through the roof wanting to be healed by him, Jesus said, "Son, your sins are forgiven you." The religious leaders immediately reacted. "Why does this fellow talk like that? He's blaspheming! Who can forgive sins but God alone?"
When Jesus was on trial for his life, the high priest put the question to him directly: "Are you the Christ, the Son of the Blessed One?"
"I am," said Jesus. "And you will see the Son of Man sitting at the right hand of the Mighty One and coming on the clouds of heaven."
The high priest tore his clothes. "Why do we need any more witnesses?" he asked. "You have heard the blasphemy."⁵
So close was Jesus' connection with God that he equated a person's attitude to himself with the person's attitude toward God. Thus, to know him was to know God.⁶ To see him was to see God.⁷ To believe in him was to believe in God.⁸ To receive him was to receive God.⁹ To hate him was to hate God.¹⁰ And to honor him was to honor God.¹¹

Is Jesus God? - possible explanations

“As we face the claims of Christ, there are only four possibilities. He was either a liar, mentally ill, a legend, or the Truth.”

The question is, was he telling the truth?
Maybe Jesus lied when he said he was God. Perhaps he knew he was not God, but deliberately deceived his hearers to lend authority to his teaching. Few, if any, hold this position. Even those who deny his deity affirm that he was a great moral teacher. However they fail to realize those two statements are a contradiction. Jesus could hardly be a great moral teacher if, on the most crucial point of his teaching -- his identity -- he was a deliberate liar.
Another possibility is that Jesus was sincere but self-deceived. We have a name for a person today who thinks he is God. Mentally disabled. But as we look at the life of Christ, we see no evidence of the abnormality and imbalance we find in a mentally ill person. Rather, we find the greatest composure under pressure.
A third alternative is that his enthusiastic followers put words into his mouth he would have been shocked to hear. Were he to return, he would immediately repudiate them. This theory has been significantly refuted by modern archeology. The four biographies of Christ were written within the lifetime of people who saw, heard and followed Jesus. These gospel accounts contained specific facts and descriptions confirmed by those who were eyewitnesses of Jesus. The early dating of the Gospels by Matthew, Mark, Luke and John, is why they gained such circulation and impact, unlike the fictional Gnostic gospels which appeared centuries later.
Jesus was not a liar, or mentally disabled, or manufactured apart from historical reality. The only other alternative is that Jesus was consciously being truthful when he said he was God.

Is Jesus God? What is the proof?

From one point of view, however, claims don't mean much. Talk is cheap. Anyone can make claims. There have been others who have claimed to be God. I could claim to be God, and you could claim to be God, but the question all of us must answer is, "What credentials do we bring to substantiate our claim?" In my case it wouldn't take you five minutes to disprove my claim. It probably wouldn't take too much more to dispose of yours.
But when it comes to Jesus of Nazareth, it's not so simple. He had the credentials to back up his claim. He said, "Even though you do not believe me, believe the evidence of the miracles, that you may learn and understand that the Father is in Me, and I am in the Father."¹²

The life of Jesus - His unique moral character

His moral character coincided with his claims. The quality of his life was such that he was able to challenge his enemies with the question, "Can any of you prove me guilty of sin?"¹³ He was met by silence, even though he addressed those who would have liked to point out a flaw in his character.
We read of Jesus being tempted by Satan, but we never hear of a confession of sin on his part. He never asked for forgiveness, though he told his followers to do so.
This lack of any sense of moral failure on Jesus' part is astonishing in view of the fact that it is completely contrary to the experience of the saints and mystics throughout the ages. The closer men and women draw to God, the more overwhelmed they are with their own failure, corruption, and shortcomings. The closer one is to a shining light, the more he realizes his need of a bath. This is true also, in the moral realm, for ordinary mortals.
It is also striking that John, Paul, and Peter, all of whom were trained from earliest childhood to believe in the universality of sin, all spoke of the sinlessness of Christ: "He committed no sin, and no deceit was found in his mouth."¹⁴
Even Pilate, who sentenced Jesus to death, asked, "What evil has he done?" After listening to the crowd, Pilate concluded, "I am innocent of this man's blood; see to it yourselves." The crowd relentlessly demanded Jesus be crucified (for blasphemy, claiming to be God). The Roman centurion who assisted in the crucifixion of Christ said, "Surely he was the Son of God."¹⁵

The life of Jesus - He cured the sick

Jesus constantly demonstrated power over sickness and disease. He made the lame to walk, the dumb to speak, and the blind to see. Some of his healings were of congenital problems not susceptible to psychosomatic cure.
For example, the man who had been blind from birth. Everyone knew him as the familiar beggar outside the temple. Yet Jesus healed him. As the authorities questioned the beggar about what happened, he said, "One thing I do know. I was blind but now I see!" he declared. He was astounded that these religious authorities didn't recognize this Healer as the Son of God. "Nobody has ever heard of opening the eyes of a man born blind," he said.¹⁶ To him the evidence was obvious.

The life of Jesus - His ability to control nature

Jesus also demonstrated a supernatural power over nature itself. With just words, he stilled a raging storm of high wind and waves on the Sea of Galilee. Those in the boat were awestruck, asking, "Who is this? Even the wind and waves obey him!"¹⁷ He turned water into wine, at a wedding. He fed a massive crowd of 5,000 people, starting with five loaves of bread and two fish. He gave a grieving widow back her only son by raising him from the dead.
Lazarus, a friend of Jesus' died and was buried in a tomb for four days already. Yet Jesus said, "Lazarus, come forth!" and dramatically raised him from the dead, witnessed by many. It is most significant that his enemies did not deny this miracle. Rather, they decided to kill him. "If we let him go on like this," they said, "everyone will believe in him."¹⁸

Is Jesus God, as he claimed?

Jesus' supreme evidence of deity was his own resurrection from the dead. Five times in the course of his life, Jesus clearly predicted in what specific way he would be killed and affirmed that three days later he would rise from the dead.
Surely this was the great test. It was a claim that was easy to verify. It would either happen or not. It would either confirm his stated identity or destroy it. And significant for you and me, Jesus' rising from the dead would verify or make laughable statements such as these:
"I am the way, the truth, and the life; no one comes to the Father except through me."¹⁹ "I am the light of the world. He who follows me will not live in darkness, but will have the light of life."²⁰ For those who believe in him, "I give them eternal life..."²¹
So by his own words, he offers this proof, ""The Son of Man is going to be delivered into the hands of men, and they will kill him. And when he is killed, after three days he will rise."²²

What this would mean

“Talk is cheap. Anyone can make claims. But when it comes to Jesus of Nazareth... He had the credentials to back up His claim.”

If Christ rose, we know with certainty that God exists, what God is like, and how we may know him in personal experience. The universe takes on meaning and purpose, and it is possible to experience the living God in this life.
On the other hand, if Christ did not rise from the dead, Christianity has no objective validity or reality. The martyrs who went singing to the lions, and contemporary missionaries who have given their lives while taking this message to others, have been poor deluded fools.
Paul, the great apostle, wrote, "If Christ has not been raised, our preaching is useless and so is your faith."²³ Paul rested his whole case on the bodily resurrection of Christ.

Did Jesus prove he is God?

Let's look at the evidence for Jesus' resurrection.
Given all the miracles he had performed, Jesus easily could have avoided the cross, but he chose not to.
Before his arrest, Jesus said, "I lay down my life that I may take it up again. No one takes it from me, but I lay it down of my own accord...and I have authority to take it up again."²⁴
During his arrest, Jesus' friend Peter tried to defend him. But Jesus said to Peter, "Put your sword back into its place...Do you think that I cannot appeal to my Father, and he will at once send me more than twelve legions of angels?"²⁵ He had that kind of power in heaven and on earth. Jesus went willingly to his death.

Jesus' crucifixion and burial.

Jesus' death was by public execution on a cross, a common form of torture and death, used by the Roman government for many centuries. The accusation against Jesus was for blasphemy (for claiming to be God). Jesus said it was to pay for our sin.
Jesus was lashed with a multi-cord whip having metal or bone fragmented ends. A mock crown of long thorns was beaten into his skull. They forced him to walk to an execution hill outside of Jerusalem. They put him on a wooden cross, nailing his wrists and feet to it. He hung there, eventually dying. A sword was thrust into his side to confirm his death.
The body of Jesus was taken from the cross, wrapped in mummy-like linens covered with gummy-wet spices. His body was placed in a solid rock tomb, where a very large boulder was rolled down to it, to secure the entrance.
Everyone knew that Jesus said he would rise from the dead in three days. So they stationed a guard of trained Roman soldiers at the tomb. They also affixed an official Roman seal to the outside of the tomb declaring it government property.

Three days later, the tomb was empty.

In spite of all this, three days later the boulder, formerly sealing the tomb, was found up a slope, some distance away from the tomb. The body was gone. Only the grave linens were found in the tomb, caved in, empty of the body.
It is important to note that both critics and followers of Jesus agree that the tomb was empty and the body missing.
The earliest explanation circulated was that the disciples stole the body while the guards were sleeping. This makes little sense. This was an entire guard of highly trained Roman soldiers, and falling asleep on duty was punishable by death.
Further, each of the disciples (individually and separately from each other) were tortured and martyred for proclaiming that Jesus was alive, risen from the dead. Men and women will die for what they believe to be true, though it may actually be false. They do not, however, die for what they know is a lie. If ever a man tells the truth, it is on his deathbed.
Maybe the authorities moved the body? Yet they crucified Jesus to stop people from believing in him. This also is a weak possibility. If they had Christ's body, they could have paraded it through the streets of Jerusalem. In one fell swoop they would have successfully smothered Christianity in its cradle. That they did not do this bears eloquent testimony to the fact that they did not have the body.
Another theory is that the women, distraught and overcome by grief, missed their way in the dimness of the morning and went to the wrong tomb. In their distress they imagined Christ had risen because the tomb was empty. But again, if the women went to the wrong tomb, why did the high priests and other enemies of the faith not go to the right tomb and produce the body?

“Men and women will die for what they believe to be true, though it may actually be false. They do not, however, die for what they know is a lie.”

One other possibility is what some call "the swoon theory." In this view, Christ did not actually die. He was mistakenly reported to be dead, but had swooned from exhaustion, pain, and loss of blood, and in the coolness of the tomb, he revived. (One would have to overlook the fact that they put a spear in his side to medically confirm his death.)
But let us assume for a moment that Christ was buried alive and swooned. Is it possible to believe that he would have survived three days in a damp tomb without food or water or attention of any kind? Would he have had the strength to extricate himself from the grave clothes, push the heavy stone away from the mouth of the grave, overcome the Roman guards, and walk miles on feet that had been pierced with spikes? It too makes little sense.
However, it wasn't the empty tomb that convinced Jesus' followers of his deity.

Not just the empty tomb.

That alone did not convince them that Jesus actually rose from the dead, was alive, and was God. What convinced them were the number of times that Jesus showed up, in person, in the flesh, and ate with them, and talked with them.
Luke, one of the gospel writers, says of Jesus, "he presented himself to them and gave many convincing proofs that he was alive. He appeared to them over a period of forty days and spoke about the kingdom of God."²⁶

Is Jesus God?

All four of the gospel writers give accounts of Jesus physically showing up after his burial, obviously alive. One time that Jesus joined the disciples, Thomas, was not there. When they told him about it, Thomas simply wouldn't believe it. He flatly stated, "Unless I see the nail marks in his hands and put my finger where the nails were, and put my hand into his side, I will not believe it."
One week later, Jesus came to them again, with Thomas now present. Jesus said to Thomas, "Put your finger here; see my hands. Reach out your hand and put it into my side. Stop doubting and believe." Thomas replied, "My Lord and my God!"
Jesus told him "Because you have seen me, you have believed; blessed are those who have not seen and yet have believed."²⁷

Your opportunity

Why did Jesus go through all of that? It was so we could know God now, in this life, by believing in him.
Jesus offers us a far more meaningful life, by being in a relationship with him. Jesus said, "I came that they might have life, and have it abundantly."²⁸
You can begin an intimate relationship with him right now. You can begin to personally know God in this life on earth, and after death into eternity. Here is God's promise to us:
"For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life."²⁹
Jesus took our sin on himself, on the cross. He chose to receive punishment for our sin, so that our sin would no longer be a barrier between us and him. Because he fully paid for your sin, he offers you complete forgiveness and a relationship with him.
Here is how you can begin that relationship.
Jesus said, "Behold, I stand at the door [of your heart] and knock; if anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come into him."³⁰
Right now you can invite Jesus Christ into your life. The words are not important. What matters is that you respond to him, in light of what he has done for you, and is now offering you. You could say to him something like, "Jesus, I believe in you. Thank you for dying on the cross for my sins. I ask you to forgive me and to come into my life right now. I want to know you and follow you. Thank you for coming into my life and giving me a relationship with you, right now. Thank you."
If you asked Jesus into your life, we would like to help you grow to know him better. In whatever way we can help you, please feel free to click on one of the links below.

►	I just asked Jesus into my life (some helpful information follows)...
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Adapted from Know Why You Believe by Paul E. Little, published by Victor Books, copyright (c) 1988, SP Publications, Inc., Wheaton, IL 60187. Used by permission.
(1) Matthew 7:29 (2) Matthew 16:15-16 (3) John 5:18 (4) John 10:33 (5) Mark 14:61-64 (6) John 8:19; 14:7 (7) 12:45; 14:9 (8) 12:44; 14:1 (9) Mark 9:37 (10) John 15:23 (11) John 5:23 (12) John 10:38 (13) John 8:46 (14) 1 Peter 2:22 (15) Matthew 27:54 (16) John 9:25, 32 (17) Mark 4:41 (18) John 11:48 (19) John 14:6 (20) John 8:12 (21) John 10:28 (22) Mark 9:31 (23) 1 Corinthians 15:14 (24) John 10:18 (25) Matthew 26:52,53 (26) Acts 1:3 (27) John 20:24-29 (28) John 10:10 (29) John 3:16 (30) Revelation 3:20

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Top 100 Universities In Nigeria 2016

top 100 universities in Nigeria     

top 100 universities in

Nigeria    2016

University	Location
1  University of Lagos	Lagos
2  University of Ibadan	Ibadan
3  Obafemi Awolowo University	Ile-Ife
4  Covenant University	Ota
5  University of Ilorin	Ilorin
6  University of Nigeria	Nsukka ...
7  Federal University of Technology, Minna	Minna
8  Federal University of Technology, Owerri	Owerri
9  University of Benin	Ugbowo ...
10  Ahmadu Bello University	Zaria
11  University of Agriculture, Abeokuta	Abeokuta ...
12  Federal University of Technology, Akure	Akure
13  University of Port Harcourt	Port Harcourt
14  Afe Babalola University	Ado-Ekiti
15  Landmark University	Omu-Aran
16  Lagos State University	Ojo
17  Nnamdi Azikiwe University	Awka ...
18  Michael Okpara University of Agriculture	Umuahia
19  Bayero University Kano	Kano
20  University of Jos	Jos
21  Enugu State University of Science and Technology	Enugu
22  Redeemer's University	Mowe
23  Rivers State University of Science and Technology	Port Harcourt
24  Federal University, Oye-Ekiti	Oye ...
25  Babcock University	Ilishan-Remo ...
26  Ebonyi State University	Abakaliki
27  University of Maiduguri	Maiduguri
28  University of Abuja	Abuja
29  Ladoke Akintola University of Technology	Ogbomoso ...
30  Pan African University	Lagos
31  Ekiti State University, Ado Ekiti	Ado-Ekiti
32  Veritas University	Abuja
33  Adekunle Ajasin University	Akungba Akoko ...
34  Lead City University	Ibadan
35  Osun State University	Oshogbo ...
36  University of Uyo	Uyo
37  African University of Science and Technology	Abuja
38  Delta State University, Abraka	Abraka
39  Kwara State University	Ilorin
40  Federal University, Dutsin-Ma	Dutsin-Ma
41  University of Calabar	Calabar
42  Federal University, Ndufu-Alike	Ndufu-Alike
43  Tai Solarin University of Education	Ijebu-Ode ...
44  University of Agriculture, Makurdi	Makurdi
45  American University of Nigeria	Yola
46  Paul University	Awka
47  Nasarawa State University	Keffi
48  Nigerian Turkish Nile University	Abuja
49  Bingham University	Auta Balifi
50  Baze University	Abuja
51  Abubakar Tafawa Balewa University	Bauchi
52  Bells University of Technology	Ota
53  Ambrose Alli University	Ekpoma
54  Madonna University	Okija ...
55  Federal University, Otuoke	Otuoke
56  Modibbo Adama University of Technology	Yola
57  Olabisi Onabanjo University	Ago Iwoye ...
58  Caritas University	Enugu
59  Ajayi Crowther University	Oyo Town
60  Ondo State University of Science & Technology	Okitipupa
61  Benue State University	Makurdi
62  Kaduna State University	Kaduna
63  Federal University of Petroleum Resources	Effurun
64  Chukwuemeka Odumegwu Ojukwu University	Uli
65  Benson Idahosa University	Benin City
66  Joseph Ayo Babalola University	Ikeji-Arakeji
67  Crawford University	Faith City ...
68  Umaru Musa Yar'Adua University	Katsina
69  Achievers University, Owo	Owo
70  Ibrahim Badamasi Babangida University	Lapai
71  Adeleke University	Ede
72  Niger Delta University	Wilberforce Island Yenagoa
73  Federal University, Dutse	Dutse
74  Igbinedion University Okada	Okada ...
75  Caleb University	Imota
76  Oduduwa University	Ile Ife
77  Federal University, Lokoja	Lokoja
78  Usmanu Danfodio University	Sokoto
79  Imo State University	Owerri
80  Fountain University	Oshogbo
81  Al-Hikmah University	Ilorin ...
82  Renaissance University	Enugu
83  Obong University	Obong Ntak
84  Novena University	Ogume
85  University of Mkar	Mkar
86  Abia State University	Uturu
87  Kebbi State University of Science and Technology	Aliero
88  Cross River University of Science & Technology	Calabar ...
89  Bowen University	Iwo
90  Wellspring University	Benin City
91  Federal University, Lafia	Lafia
92  Salem University	Lokoja
93  Yobe State University	Damaturu
94  Western Delta University	Oghara
95  Adamawa State University	Mubi
96  Federal University, Kashere	Kashere
97  Bauchi State University	Gadau ...
98  Taraba State University	Jalingo
99  Crescent University	Abeokuta
100  Sokoto State University	Sokoto
101  Gombe State University	Gombe
102  Samuel Adegboyega University	Ogwa
103  Elizade University	Ilara-Mokin
104  Kogi State University	Anyigba
105  Akwa Ibom State University	Uyo
106  Kano University of Science and Technology	Wudil
107  Godfrey Okoye University	Ugwuomu-Nike
108  Federal University, Wukari	Wukari
109  Kwararafa University Wukari	Wukari
110  Tansian University	Umunya ...
111  Rhema University	Aba
112  Wesley University of Science and Technology	Ondo City
113  Al-Qalam University, Katsina	Katsina

 

Love,Dating

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                  QUESTIONS ASKED ON
            LOVE,DATING AND MARRIAGE

    These questions are also divided for those currently  Dating and for those that are either Married or looking forward to a successful and lovin marriadge.

• About how many guests attended your wedding?
  • How many guests would you invite to your wedding?
• At what age do most people in your country get married?
• At what age do you want to get married?
  • At what age did you get married?
• Describe a perfect date.
• Describe the appearance of the person you would like to date?
• Describe the character of the person you would like to date?
• Do women usually work after getting married in your country?
• Do you "go Dutch" when dating?
• Do you know what it means to 'go Dutch'?
• Is it usual for people in your country to 'go Dutch' if you go out together?
• Do older girls/boys have a problem dating younger girls/boys?
  • Do younger girls/boys have a problem dating older girls/boys?
• Do you believe in love at first sight?
  • Do you think some people know that they will fall in love with someone the first time they meet?
• Do you know what a 'blind date' is?
• Have you ever been on a blind date?
• Did you ever arrange a blind date?
• Do you drive or take the train when dating?
• Do you get along with your in-laws?
• Do you have a boyfriend/girlfriend?
  • Where did you meet your him/her?
  • What does he/she look like?
• Do you know anyone who has had an arranged marriage?
• Do you know someone who has gotten a divorce?
• Do you know the difference between love and like?
  • Can you still love your partner and not like him/her?
• Do you think a boy should pay for everything on a date?
• Do you think arranged marriages are a good idea? Why or why not?
  • What is your opinion of arranged marriages?
• Do you think fairy tales influence our choice of a partner?
• Do you think getting married means giving up freedom?
• Do you think if you get married that you will change?
• Do you think it is better to be single or to be married?
• Do you think it is good to get married?
• Do you think it is okay for a couple to live together before getting married? Why or Why not?
• Do you think it is okay to marry someone of a different race?
• Do you think it is okay to marry someone with a different religion?
• Do you think it's OK for a man to have two wives?
• Do you think it's OK for a wife to have two husbands?
• Do you think it's okay for a man to have a mistress?
• Do you think it's okay for a man to hit his wife?
• Do you think love is necessary to have a good marriage?
• Do you think marriage is necessary?
• Do you think marriages based on love are more successful than arranged marriages?
• Do you think marriage is very stressful for women? How about for men?
• Do you think people change after getting married?
• Do you think religion influences marriage? If so, in what ways?
• Do you think that all adults should be married?
• Do you think that you can you find eternal love through the Internet?
• Do you want a husband or wife who is older, younger or the same age as you?
• Do you want to have children?
  • If so, how many?
• Have you ever been to a school dance?
• Have you ever had a crush on someone?
• Have you ever hated loving someone?
• Have your parents ever disapproved of any of your relationships?
• How long do you think couples should know each other before they get married?
• How many children would you like to have?
• How often would you like to go out on dates?
• How old were you when you had your first boyfriend or girlfriend?
• How old were you when you went on your first date?
  • Where did you go?
  • What did you do?
  • Who did you go with?
• How old were your parents when they got married?
• If your husband or wife has an affair what would you do?
• If your parents did not approve of a person you loved and wanted to marry, would that be a difficult situation for you? Why or why not?
• Is going out on dates important for you?
• Is there a such thing as a perfect relationship for you?
• If you could go out with anyone, who would it be?
• If you are a man, and a woman asks you for a date, do you feel you should pay, or that the woman should pay?
• If you had to marry either a poor man whom you really loved, or a rich man whom you did not love, which would you choose?
• If you had to choose to live with someone who truly loves you but you don't love him back or to live alone for a rest of your life loving someone that doesn't love you who would you choose?
• What advice would you give to someone whose partner hates their best friend?
• What age do you think is best for getting married?
• What are some dating and marriage customs in your country?
• What are some of the main reasons people get divorced?
• What are some popular places to go on a date?
• What are some qualities that you think are important in a spouse or partner?
• What characteristics do you look for in a girlfriend or boyfriend?
• What do you consider cheating in a dating relationship?
• What do you like to talk about when on a date?
• What do you look for in a girlfriend or a boyfriend?
• What do you think most people talk about when dating?
• What do you think of people who get divorced?
  • Would you ever consider getting divorced?
• What do you think of same-sex marriages?
• What do you think of single mothers?
• What is a wedding ceremony like in your country?
• What is the best way to keep your spouse happy in the marriage?
• What kind of boy or girl do you like?
• What kind of clothes do you wear on a date?
• What kind of man do you want as a husband?
• What kind of person do you want to get married to?
• What kind of woman do you want as a wife?
• What makes a good husband/wife?
• What makes a happy marriage?
  • What do you think are some things that contribute to a successful marriage?
• What qualities are important to you in a boyfriend or girlfriend?
• What qualities in a partner are important to you?
• What was the most boring date you've ever been on?
• What was the most interesting date you've ever been on?
• What would you consider "the perfect date" for you?
• What would you do if your soon to be mother-in-law seems to hate you?
• What would your parents think if you don't get married?
• When did your parents get married?
• Where do you want to go for your honeymoon?
  • Where did you go for your honeymoon?
• Where do you want to go on your honeymoon?
• Where is a good pace to go on a date in this town?
• Where would you like to go on a date?
• Which is more important for you, your job or your marriage?
• Why do people break up with their partners?
• Will you continue working after you get married?
• Would you date someone you really liked if your parents did not like him or her?
• Would you ever marry someone who has been divorced twice?
• Would you introduce your date to your family?
• Would you live with your parents after you get married?
• Would you marry someone from another country?
• Would you marry someone ten years older than you? How about ten years younger than you?
• Would you marry someone that your parents didn't like?
• Would you marry someone who couldn't speak the same language as you speak?
• Would you mind if your boyfriend or girlfriend went out to party without you?
• Would you prefer to go out with a quiet or a talkative person?
• At what age do you think that dating should begin?
  • Do you think there is any age when a person is too old to date?
• Do you know a happily married couple?
• Can you name a famous happily married couple?
• What do you think is the most important ingredient in a good marriage?
• How long is the marriage ceremony in your country?
• Who designed the marriage covenant?
• What do you think about dating a friend's ex-girlfriend or ex-boyfriend?
• Does your first love still hold a special place in your heart?
  • Do you believe that he or she will always have a special place in your heart?
• What qualities do you look in your partner?
• Do you think its possible to wait for the man or woman you love while he or she is in jail?
• What is your definition of love?
• Would you wait on a person you were dating for a long time if they joined the army?
  • How about if they went to prison?
• What is the best season to get married?
• Do you know anybody who has two families at the same time and supports them both?
• How many families can you have in your country?
• Are there any superstitions on making someone fall in love with you?
  • Have you heard of any successful "love potions?"
• Have you ever returned a gift to your boyfriend or girlfriend and later find out that he has given it to his or her new mate?
• Do you know of any superstitions connected with weddings?
• Would it be important for you to have a "white wedding dress'?
• Can you control your partner by playing games?
• Why do you think the bride's maids wear white.
• When should you introduce your boyfriend or girlfriend to your parents?
  • When you begin dating
  • After you have been together for a while
  • Only when the relationship is serious?
  • Why?
• Do you like to have boy friend or girl friend in your school or in your classes?
• Do you think it is right to continue seeing a person if he has not introduced you to his family yet?
• In your opinion is marriage for life?
  • Do you think when people get married it is really until death?
• How long does it take for dating to become a relationship?
• Is it important to be punctual in your first date? Why?
• Would you dress up for a first date? What clothes would you wear?
• What kind of place do you think is the ideal for a first date? Why do you think so?
• What are your country's norms or laws on displays of public affection?
  • Do you think it is okay for couples to kiss in public?
• How would you feel if your boyfriend liked to keep company with a female friend when you're not there?
• How would you feel if your girlfriend liked to keep company with a male friend when you're not there?
• If you could go back to your past love, and change what went wrong, who would it be?
• Who do you love?
• If you had to choose to live with someone who truly loves you but you don't love him back or to live alone for a rest of your life loving someone that doesn't love you what would you choose?
• What would you change, if you are given only one chance to do it ?
• Whose heart did you break most ? Did you apologize from him\her ?
• Have you ever met someone you love a lot but never expressed it?
• If your parents forced you to get married with a person who you don't love, what would you do in this situation?
• If your boyfriend/girlfriend dated another person, then he/she wanted to return and date you, would you date again?
• If your boyfriend/girlfriend dated your close friend, what would you do?
• Do you believe that having a permanent love between two person who are living in two different countries is possible?
• Do you want your husband to know how you looked as a child? Why or why not?
• Do you believe in love at first sight or love after the first night? 
  
  lol.......these were some of the questions i figured out some people might not have been able to ask,while,some where questions i've been wanting to ask,and i discovered others in books,movies,the internet etc..

How To Prevent Early Ejaculation/A guide to having equal satisfaction in bed

Enjoying your Love Life

 Premature ejaculation is           embarresing...
But you’re not allone: About 30% of all men suffer from it

But before we start,i believe knowing some secrets about the female orgasm and how to satisfy your woman in bed, i.e,making her come will really help you to understand that sex was not meant for you to enjoy alone but for both of you,and if you are interested in satisfying your woman in bed and not being selfish to get all the pleasure alone then here is a secret for you..

4 Myths About the Female Orgasm

Last start with some myths about sex and premature ejaculation before we digg into the details

Long Sex = Good Sex

Guys often equate marathon sexual sessions with great sex. However, men and women are wired differently. Many women prefer 10-20 minutes of passionate, rough sex.
As guys, we tend to think we need to have sex with a girl for hours on end to really please her. But this is often wrong. Women fantasize about passion. A woman’s favorite sexual experience may the time she had sex for two minutes in a bathroom or an impromptu back-seat-of-the-car romp.
Just remember to be a passionate lover! While you do need to last a little while (about 8 - 12 minutes), a few minutes of passionate sex is better than 2 hours of endless, mundane pumping.

Penis Size = Female Satisfaction

Guys - stop worrying about the size of your member. Penis size doesn't matter to many women. In a 2012 study, researchers found that over sixty percent of women don't care about the size of their partner’s penis.
Also, the average penis size is actually much smaller than most men believe. A study done in 2013 by the Journal of Sexual Medicine found the average penis to be around 5.5 inches long. Another study found women prefer penises that were around 6.5 inches long when asked to pick a penis ranging from 4 inches up to 8.5 inches.
And if you ask a woman about their best lover ever – it's rarely the guy with the biggest member. No - most women say that the best sex of their life was an incredibly passionate experience.

Penetration is Necessary for a Woman to Orgasm

As humans, we all love sex. Women love sex just as much as men. However, men and women love sex in different ways. Men enjoy an orgasm in almost every sexual encounter. Women want this as well, but there's a problem: roughly 30% of women cannot reach orgasm.
Not only that - but around 80% of women have never had a vaginal orgasm. This means that only 1 in 5 women can orgasm from penetration alone. That’s not a good percentage, guys. So why do we worry so much about penetration?
Well, I don’t know the answer to that. What I can tell you is that we shouldn’t! You can give your woman an orgasm in a number of ways - before, during, and after penetration. Statistically speaking, you are much more likely to give your girl a clitoral orgasm with your mouth than any other way.

Women Don’t Like Sex as Much as Guys Do

Guys, we aren't in middle school anymore. Women love sex. Do you think Fifty Shades of Grey would've been one of the bestselling books of all-time if they didn't?
Women fantasize about sex just as much as we do. They have just been taught to be more discreet about their desires. If you think a woman is innocent and doesn't have as dirty of a mind as you do, then you're dead wrong.
Women get turned on in a completely different way than we guys do. Often, what arouses a woman is much more complex than what arouses a man. Guys might be turned on by seeing a hot girl with a nice body, but a woman needs more than just the visual.
Science used to claim that men are more sexual than women, but this was due to inaccurate study-results. Women have been proven to lie more than men in surveys. They often attempt to answer how they think they "should", instead of being honest.

What are the causes of
premature ejaculation?

 1. Exessive Porn Consumption

Yep, that’s right. Porn. According to recent studies, porn consumption affects dopamine production- a hormone responsible for controlling your ejaculation reflex. By watching adult videos excessively you teach yourself to come too quickly.
Since Internet porn makes it very easy for us to watch all kinds of fetishes and pornstars, we get used to it and masturbate to quickly achieve orgasm—almost like an addict seeking the next dopamine rush. Most men develop this habit from a very early age, making it hard to overcome if the right techniques are not used.

 2. Hormonal Imbalance

Specifically Serotonin and Testosterone. . The hormone Serotonin controls our feelings of happiness and regulates sleep. However, there is also a direct connection between that hormone and your endurance in bed. This is why antidepressants are prescribed for these issues.
Unfortunately, they have a long list of side effects, like loss of sex drive and fatigue, making them impractical to use. The second hormone, testosterone, regulates your sexual desire, muscle growth, fitness, vitality and much more. Addressing this issue brings a number of additional benefits, such as having more confidence, as well as the ability to go for that 2nd round.

 3. Anxiety & Performance Pressure

Having had many bad experiences – over and over again – you developed a mental block in you subconscious. With each failed attempt you felt more and more pressure to finally perform well. You may have also had unrealistic expectations due to excessive porn consumption, from comparing yourself with pornstars (consciously and unconsciously) causing even more stress.
You may have also had unrealistic expectations due to excessive porn consumption, from comparing yourself with pornstars (consciously and unconsciously) causing even more stress.

 4. It’s Biological

Your ancestors, back in cavemen days, had to be prepared to fight for their family, food, and more at a moment's notice. This meant that marathon sexual sessions were not an option. Men that took a long time to come could be attacked during the act which decreased their odds of passing on their genes.
However, men who came quickly were able to spread their seed far and wide. A few pumps here, a few pumps there, and a baby was on the way. Men who could spread their seed rapidly had more offspring. Therefore, we all have a genetic inclination toward premature ejaculation.
So, relax – coming quickly is not a bad thing. You're genetically wired to do this, just like every other guy. The good news is that many men have found ways around this issue, and so can you!

6 Proven Solutions To Overcome
Premature Ejaculation And Finally
Last Longer In Bed

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The Most Common Solution to
Premature Ejaculation:
  1. Kegel Exercises

Kegel exercises work out your pelvic floor muscle in order to give you more control over your orgasm. The muscles that control your orgasm are similar to those that control the flow of urine when you urinate.
If you ever had to stop peeing in the middle of using the restroom, then you know how to flex your kegel muscles. However, for most men premature ejaculation is mental not physical. If you can stop yourself in the middle of urinating then your kegel muscles are strong enough.
Strengthening your pelvic floor through kegel exercises can still be beneficial to some men. If you have well trained pelvic muscles, you can learn the squeeze-and-hold-technique, allowing you to hold in your ejaculation when orgasming, without losing your erection. You can just keep going. This requires the right exercises tho.

The first step in kegel exercises is to identify your pelvic floor muscle by stopping in the middle of urination. Once you can feel the muscle, you’ll want to start practicing. Go pee and then lie on your back with knees bent and spread apart. Flex your pelvic floor muscles and hold the contraction for 3 seconds. Then relax for 3 seconds and go again. Do 3-5 sets to begin and work your way up to 10 sets.

 2. Try Hypnosis to “reprogram” your subconscious mind to last longer

Whether you like it or not, your subconscious thoughts and desires control more of your actions than you’d imagine - especially during intercourse. Many things come into play, like what you associate with sex such as, old memories and irrational fears - all of which may be causing you issues and are not very encouraging.
Oftentimes men get into a subconscious self-fulfilling prophecy or vicious cycle: Because you had so many experiences of finishing too fast, your subconscious starts to accept it as the standard and strives to fulfill it.
NLP (Neuro Linguistic-Programming) and Hypnosis offer you a way to take your interfering thoughts and turn them into useful ones. It will help you to detach yourself from your fears and rewire your subconscious mind for longer lasting sex.
If your subconscious mind does not align with your conscious control of your body, you will continually be fighting an uphill battle in fighting premature ejaculation.

 3. Adjust Hormones by Changing
Your Diet, Taking Supplements or
Medication

Hormones influence all aspects of sex. Serotonin and dopamine have a direct impact on how long you last in bed. You can change the effects of these hormones on your sex organs by taking SSRI pills, which have been proven to help prolong male ejaculation time. However, SSRI pills often have major side effects.
One of the main (and very common) side effects of SSRI pills is erectile dysfunction… Now I don’t know about you, but I’d prefer to ejaculate prematurely than not to be able to get it up. So, instead of taking SSRI pills, you might want to try changing your diet.
Foods like bananas, dark chocolate, wild fish, free range beef, and organic eggs all boost serotonin levels. Also, consider drinking a whey protein shake each day.

Alternatively, you can use supplements and natural plant extracts to boost your serotonin production - without the side effects you’d get from SSRI medication. This is because supplements and plant extracts provide your brain with the necessary proteins it needs to produce serotonin, instead of pushing your receptors to produce more (like SSRIs do). It helps your body to reach its full, natural potential and balances out a deficiency in serotonin (if you happen to have one).

 4. Positions To Help You Last Longer

It’s much harder to last in some sexual positions than in others. Every man needs to find out what positions work best for him. However, there are some general guidelines to follow:
First, you want to have gravity working for you - not against you. This means that the "missionary position" may be contributing to your problem. Not only is your penis on a downward slope while in missionary, but you also have to hold up your own body weight. Holding your body weight up requires you to flex your muscles, which leads to faster ejaculation.
Try girl-on-top positions to delay ejaculation. Your muscles won’t be flexed and you'll have gravity on your side. Control her movements by firmly guiding her hips with your hands. If you get close to coming, stay inside your girl, but pull her down to kiss you. As you kiss, make sure she stops moving. This will give you a nice break.

You can also try standing during sex, if you have a bed or couch at the right height. Many men find that standing up while having sex delays their orgasm. Depending on the height of the bed or couch, your girl can lie on her back and you can do standing-missionary. Or she can be bent over in doggy-style while you are standing.

 5. Gain confidence in bed and
eliminate performance anxiety

If you are nervous about having sex with a girl or busting too quickly, you most likely will do just that. Sex is like sports. If you are thinking about missing a shot or dropping a ball, you will. If you are thinking about coming quickly, you will.
However, you can handle this problem in a few ways. The first way is the fun way. If you have a girlfriend or a chick you are regularly having sex with then start having more sex. Actually, you should have as much sex as possible. Practice makes perfect.
Another way to get rid of performance anxiety is through affirmations. When you wake up in the morning walk to the mirror and stare at yourself. Then start saying things like, “I am going to rock her world” or “My sexual stamina is a strength” or “I can last as long as I want”. You get the idea. Repeat each saying 10 times every morning.
Lastly, you can try using NLP (Neuro Linguistic-Programming) to cure your performance anxiety.

 6. Your Breathing During Sex Plays a
Big Role In Your Arousal, and How
Long You Can Last in Bed

Men breathe heavier and faster when they're about to come. How you breathe is directly correlated with your level of excitement and arousal. When your breath is heavy during intercourse, your mind thinks it's time to ejaculate.
Thus, to extend your stamina in the bedroom, you must control your breathing. Make a mental note to breathe slowly while you're inside your girl. Relax your mind and slow your breath. If this means you slowly thrust in and out of her, so be it. If you start to breathe heavily during sex and can't catch your breath - slow down or pull out. Then, catch your breath and start again.

If you're out of shape, this could be hurting your sex life. Try adding more cardio into your workout schedule if you find yourself huffing and puffing every time you have sex.

 7. Learn to please her in other ways

 

Practice makes perfect. If you're going to last longer in bed, you need to have more sex. And it’s tough to have a lot of sex if you can't get a girl to have sex with you more than once.
This means you need to please her in other ways. If premature ejaculation is a big issue for you, learn to pleasure a woman without penetration. The two easiest ways to do this are with your fingers and/or your mouth.
Fingering the clitoris is often a waste of time. However, you can still use your fingers to your advantage. To finger a girl properly, use your index and middle fingers. Slide these two fingers inside her (wet) vagina and find the “squishy” part of her vagina, located on the top of the vaginal cavity, about an inch or two inside of her. Slowly begin to make a come-hither motion with your fingers. This stimulates her G-spot. As she begins to enjoy what you are doing, you can get fairly aggressive fingering her. Babies come out of that thing; you don’t have to be too careful with it. Just remember to listen to breathing and moaning.

To arouse a woman orally, start by giving her whole pussy 10-12 “dog licks” to warm her up, before moving on to her clitoris. There are a number of ways to use your lips and tongue. The easiest way is to suck her clitoris into your mouth and then flick it with your tongue as you continue to suck on it. Every woman is different, so find out what she likes by experimenting and watching her reactions.